What Is Estate Planning?
Estate planning, at its core, is a way for you to protect and take care of your family’s needs after your death. It is also a way for you to protect your assets and your family if you are unexpectedly incapacitated. There are many different estate planning tools you can use to plan for your family’s protection. But, don’t try to create what you think you need from an online legal form.
Proper estate planning is more complex that what you can do with a simple do-it-yourself form. You need an attorney who is knowledgeable and experienced in estate planning to help you create a good plan.. The actual documents you need in your estate plan depend on your individual situation.
You need to talk to an attorney about your options. A “one size fits all” form simply won’t protect you. And, a comprehensive estate plan actually prepares you for death and if you are unexpectedly incapacitated.
Planning for your family’s future is critical. By planning ahead, you get to determine how your property is handled and to whom it is distributed. And, if you do become incapacitated, either permanently or temporarily, an estate plan can protect you and your family when you can’t make decisions for yourself.
Planning for Your Death
When preparing for death, proper estate planning actually has two parts. One part provides that your debts are paid after your death. The other part designates the beneficiaries of your assets the debts are paid.
A Last Will & Testament is the most common estate planning tool that covers both of these situations. A Will is essentially your written instructions about how you want your property handled after your death. In it, you also specify who you want to manage your property.
Planning for Incapacity
There are certain situations in life that can result in your becoming incapacitated. Sometimes an injury can create that situation, other times it may be a medical condition. In either situation, however, you need someone to take care of you and make decisions for you when you can’t do so.
This is why planning for incapacity is crucial. And, when planning for being unexpectedly incapacitated, there are actually two parts to that plan as well. The first part of an incapacity plan deals with your person healthcare. In that part of the plan, you name the person you want to make healthcare decisions for you when you can’t do so yourself. The other part of the plan deals with your financial affairs and is where you designate the person you want to make decisions that affect you financially if you are incapacitated.
The need to plan ahead in these areas cannot be over emphasized. If you do become incapacitated and you don’t have a plan in place, it may be necessary for your family to seek court intervention to appoint a guardian for you. That process can be extremely expensive so it is a good idea to plan ahead.
To get your plan in place, call me at (254) 203-0843. I’d be happy to visit with you, discuss your needs, and craft an estate plan specifically tailored to meet your needs and protect your family. As an alternative, you can complete an online questionnaire and I’ll get started on your estate plan after a brief discussion with you.
Not having a will can cause your family an incredible amount additional grief from unnecessary complexities and costs in settling your estate, not to mention the possibility of results that are entirely contrary to what you would want.
I just came across an article written by Don McNay that illustrates this point quite well. McNay is a financial advisor. He is a big advocate of having a will to control how your assets are distributed after your death. He advises everyone to get a will.
But, his family didn’t heed his advice. His mother and sister both died without wills. The results for McNay and his family were nothing short than a disaster.
His mother died in April 2006. He and his sister were her sole heirs. At the time of his mother’ s death, his sister was without a job so he paid his mother’s funeral expenses, her mortgage and other outstanding bills. He and his sister agreed that he would be reimbursed from the settlement of their mother’s estate. They did not, however, put their agreement in writing.
His sister then unexpectedly died in October 2006. She had an adult son and a minor daughter. As if that wasn’t complicated enough, the sister had an estranged husband.
You guessed it… he showed up after her death.
Right after the funeral he hired a lawyer to file probate proceedings, requesting that he be named administrator of the sister’s estate. Since only six months had passed since his mother died, the mother’s state was still not settled. So, the sister’s husband was also named as a co-administrator of that estate.
Oh, it gets better. Remember, the sister died leaving a minor child. The court appointed an attorney to represent that minor child’s interest and approve any decisions in his mother’s estate.
McNay describes the whole process as “a tedious and expensive mess.”
I’d say that’s probably an understatement.
He also states,
“The person who got the most money from my mother’s estate was my former brother-in-law. My sister’s estate received half of Mom’s money, and he received half of my sister’s estate. My nephew and niece split the other half of her estate.”
He explains that the result is not what his mother or sister would have wanted. Further, it was something that was entirely avoidable. He rightly states that,
“Involving a lawyer would have solved most of the problems. If my sister and, especially, my mother had had simple wills, the process would have been smoother and the money would have gone to the right people.”
McNay concludes the explanation of his ordeal with this statement,
“People may think that wills and attorneys are expensive. In the overall scheme of things, they really aren’t. I gladly would have paid ten times the average cost for my mother and sister to have had wills. And everyone (but my brother-in-law and the attorneys) would have come out way ahead. ”
If you’d like to read his entire story, you’ll find it here: I Learned the Hard Way Why People Need Wills
Don’t let this happen to your family. As Mr. McNay says, this is completely avoidable.
Call me. Let’s talk about your will. Your family will thank you.
There is a common misconception “out there” that estate planning is just for the rich. Let me clear that up … estate planning is NOT just for the rich. It’s for everyone. That’s right … everyone. It doesn’t matter what you do for a living, whether you have a dozen kids or no kids, whether you think you have an estate to plan or not, estate planning is for you.
What Is Estate Planning?
Estate planning is really nothing more than a plan that protects your loved ones when you die. Notice, I said, “when” you die, not “if” you die. Dying is a certainty for all of us. So, we should all plan for it. It’s really simple. If you have a plan for when you die, your loved ones will have adequate protection. If you don’t have a plan for when you die, your loved ones won’t be protected.
What do you need to protect your loved ones? Any well prepared plan includes a will, along with powers of attorney to deal with financial and medical issues, and a living will. Depending on your particular situation, you may also want to consider a living trust so your family can avoid probate.
Why We Don’t Plan Ahead
I have people tell me they know it’s important to prepare for death. They say they’ll make an appointment to talk about their options. The vast majority never follow through. Why is that? If we know a plan is so important for protecting our families, why don’t we actually follow through and make a plan?
Here’s what I think …
We’re in denial.
Whether we admit it or not, we all think we’re not going to die. After all, that’s something that happens to the other guy … right? No, that’s not right. We’re all going to die. And, we all know that death is inevitable.
So then I hear …
“You’re right. I am going to die. Of course, I know that. But, the day I’m going to die is not today. I’m going to die ‘some day’ down the road. Right now I’m just too busy to deal with it. I’ll do it ‘some day’ before the inevitable happens.”
The problem is that you don’t know the day. Postponing a plan most likely means you’ll die without a plan. Don’t let that happen.
Or, I hear …
“I don’t have to worry about what happens when I die. My spouse and I have everything in our names jointly. If one of us dies, the other gets everything.”
But, what happens if you die together … like in a car accident (I’ll give an example a little later in this article)? Do you have a plan for your children?
Or, I hear …
“I don’t have an ‘estate’ so I don’t need a plan.”
Really? Tell me, do you own a home? Do you have life insurance? Do you have a car, bank account, or 401(k)? If you have any of these, then you have an “estate” that is subject to the probate process and you need a plan.
Or, I hear …
“I can’t afford to pay for an estate plan.”
Hmm … do you have minor children? If so, you can’t afford NOT to have an estate plan because you need to appoint a guardian to take care of your children if you and your spouse both die before they’re grown. And, what about the expense of creating an estate plan? Have you purchased a new flat screen television for your home? How about new living room furniture? Well, it costs about the same to prepare an estate plan. It’s just a matter of priorities, really.
I’ve even heard …
“I’ll be dead so what do I care about what happens to my estate?”
Should I really have to address a question like that? Unfortunately, I do hear that from some people. The answer is that you should care a lot if you have loved ones.
There’s just no excuse for not at least having a will. It doesn’t matter how young or old you are or what your financial circumstances are, you should at least have a will.
If you die without a will, the State of Texas decides who gets your “stuff.” The State will also decide who takes care of your minor child. Besides, it’s incredibly irresponsible to leave your family a mess to unravel after your death. So, at least prepare a will.
Using Online Services for an Estate Plan
Let me say this right up front … I do NOT recommend using an online form to create a will, power of attorney, or any other legal document pertaining to your estate. Doing it yourself works well for a lot of things but this is not one of them. A will is one of the most important legal documents you’ll ever create. It is not something you want to trust to an online form or service.
If you’ve ever visited one of these legal online sites, you’ll notice they have lots of disclaimers making sure you understand that they’re not giving legal advice. They have those disclaimers because they can’t give legal advice. All they can do is give you a form with cookie cutter language and leave you to your own devices to try and figure out how to fit your situation into that mold.
How do you know if you’re doing it right? How do you know your family will get what you intend for them to get? Without proper legal training, you don’t know. And, if you use the wrong words and phrases in a will, you may very well end up doing the exact opposite of what you mean to do.
The horror stories involving poor drafting of wills are legendary. You do not want your estate to join the scores of such stories so don’t try to do it yourself. Here’s a story illustrating my point. The names are fictional, but this actually happened.
Jim and Laura had two grown children and five grandchildren. They wanted to make sure they had a will to protect the inheritance for their children and grandchildren. So, using a popular online service, they prepared a will. They followed the prompts, answered the questions, checked the boxes, printed and signed the documents. They thought they had adequately protected their children and grandchildren.
A few years later Jim and Laura, along with their son, were killed in a car wreck. Afterward, the family discovered that three of the grandchildren were disinherited. What happened?
Well, when Jim and Laura completed that online form it included a sentence that read “our estate should go in equal shares to our two children.” Of course, that sounded right to them so they never questioned it beyond the “check box” presented by the online service. But, what Jim and Laura didn’t realize is that they made no provision for what would happen to the share of any child who died before them or at the same time as they died. As a result, they had no statement in the will that would give the children of a deceased child the share the deceased child would have received.
When Jim and Laura died in that car crash with their son, his three children were not included in the inheritance through the will. They were unintentionally disinherited. This unintentional disinheriting would not have happened if Jim and Laura had consulted with a qualified attorney to create their will rather than depending on a generic, fill in the form, online service.
This tragic scenario is played out over and over again in real life situations. Estate planning is not a do it yourself project. Go to a qualified professional who can help you make the right decisions to carry out your plans to protect your loved ones.
Always Consult a Qualified Professional
Planning your estate and protecting your family is the most important thing you can do before you die. Don’t leave the decision to later because it may be too late. And, don’t depend on a form from the internet or a legal service on the internet. The decisions you need to make are too important to trust to anyone other than a qualified professional.
Estate planning is what I do. I am more than happy to sit down with you, answer your questions, and help you prepare a plan that protects your family. There is no better way to have peace of mind about your family’s future after you’re gone than to know you’ve prepared a plan that ensures they are properly protected.
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